Oh man, I’ve been there! Years ago, I had those same gut-churning suspicions about my ex. What helped me was hitting the gym every morning - the endorphins kept my head clear and stopped me from spiraling.
I also started a “feelings journal” where I’d dump all my paranoid thoughts before bed. It helped separate real red flags from anxiety-driven fantasies. When I finally talked to her (after weeks of journaling), I was surprised how calm I felt.
Whatever happens, trust your gut but lead with facts, not fear. You’ve got this! 